Collaboration is a great idea! Most of us can get behind the notion of win/win. It’s surprising, though, how so many of us default to the “my idea is better” mentality when faced with a situation requiring collaboration. It takes practice to actively choose collaboration as the top priority.
What I call Tolerance is a series of skills derived from Non-Violent Communication. These skills include I statements, mirroring and validation, identifying bilateral needs and making requests.
Along the same lines of neutralizing projection, when we identify disowned parts of ourselves and enter into conversation with them, we own that part and reclaim our wholeness.
Tonglin is a Tibetan Buddhist meditation where we breathe in negativity and neutralize it on our outbreath. Whenever I’m triggered by something in my world I find I can own it’s origin in myself through Tonglin.
Sweeping refers to sweeping the mind through the body. In this case we’re tracking with sensation and respiration in a systematic way. This activity elicits a strong sense of masculine energy.
The best way that I’ve found to tune into my inner feminine is by meditating on my pulse. It’s something to which I have to consciously surrender.